The Final Corral: The Secret to Being an Inspirational Speaker

There are those who speak with an academic purpose. They
have information that needs to be conveyed.

There are those whose purpose in speaking is to get a result.
A process must be implemented; a change in behavior needs
to occur.

There are those who speak to present a revolutionary idea.
TED talks are famous for this.

And there are those whose purpose is to produce all three.
But without this single element, they’re not likely to succeed
at any of them: Inspiration.

What is inspiration? A dictionary definition is, “Stimulation
of the mind or emotions to a high level of feeling or activity.”

I would remove both uses of the word “or.” One is not
inspired if the emotions are not stimulated. So, to convey
information; to get a result; and to present a revolutionary
idea, the audience must feel. And there’s no point in
inspiring if there is no new activity.

So, as the leader of the room, it is essential that you feel.
How do you evoke emotion in yourself around your topic?

Ask yourself, What is the most influential, far-reaching
impact this topic can have?

If you are not getting there, you will not feel the emotion
that, in turn, inspires.

I was working with a successful, international speaker last
week on a new topic. We were circling around the one he
has been giving for years. But as I listened to him,  I knew
it wasn’t engaging him as it should. I knew it wasn’t deep
enough. And I knew that was because it wasn’t addressing
the farthest-reaching impact this speaker could produce. I
asked him, “What final corral are you herding your audience
into?
” (By no means did I mean that to be derogatory; it was
simply a visual device I knew would get at the answer that I
wanted.)

I wanted him to see that his current topic had a deeper end-
result
than what he has been sharing. There is an ultimate
corral for them that he has not been moving them into. His
current topic was causing him lethargy because he was only
“herding” them into an intermediary corral; it was only going
so-far…but he didn’t realize that was a problem of any kind.
He didn’t know there was corral beyond! It took our session
for him to see that he wasn’t going far enough.

His topic has been on diversity. I asked him, “What is ultimately
possible if a corporate team accepts one another’s differences?

He said, essentially, that they would be able to “do more as a
group.” I won’t say more about what we came to, as it is now
turning into a proprietary signature talk for him–but what he
saw was that he was stopping too short in the process and as
a result, was not speaking about a topic that was his truest
calling, his truest purpose
. As a result, it was causing him to
be stopped short in his passion. He saw that he needed to design
a talk about the “final corral”: the potential of a group.

His voicemail the next day made me laugh: “Guru, Lizabeth!
Master, Expert, Brain-Sticky, Inspired Leader, awesome
Lizabeth! This is one of your most devoted fans. Thank you for
drilling down to what I am SOO passionate about, that I didn’t
even realize was there!”

In order to “stimulate the mind and emotions to a high level
of feeling and activity”
—you must do the same for yourself
first. And that will come only when you are speaking about
the “final corral.” It may be very true that you, like my client,
are stopping too short, and short-changing your audience and
the results you could get.

As an Inspired Leader, it’s time to come into your own, and
drill down to your core-most purpose for being on a stage.
Ask yourself, What is the most influential, far-reaching
impact this topic can have?

Be sure to join me on my free 90-minute telecourse next
Monday: Secrets of Impact and Influence: The New Paradigm
of Public Speaking. It’s not your typical free teleclass!
www.bit.ly-sii-teleclass

Fear of Public Speaking–Part 1

According to public polls, the fear of public speaking
trumps fear of death, thereby preventing hundreds of
thousands of messages from being brought into the world
every day. As far as I’m concerned, that death is worse
than any other kind. At no time in history have messages
been more important to deliver than right now. Nothing
should keep them from being heard—least of all fear.

So what is this fear, exactly, and why is it so paralyzing?
Well, the truth is, we’re not afraid of speaking in public.
We are terrified of being humiliated.

It’s a subtle distinction, but a very important one because
one thwarts transformation and the other aids it. What can
you do if you’re “afraid of public speaking” except not speak
in public
? But when you speak the truth of it, that you’re
afraid of being humiliated, you can do so much with it!
Like, find out if that fear is true…and worth the silencing of
your message.

I tell my students all the time: your words inform your
world
, so watch the words that you use. So stop saying,
I’m afraid of speaking in public,” and begin saying, “I’m
afraid of being
humiliated.” When you recognize the difference,
you’ll see that one does not equal the other. The number of
times you will truly experience humiliation, out of all of the
times you will actually speak, is infinitesimal—if it happens
at all.

This week, I’m going to write several posts on this subject,
but for now, let’s look at what contributes to the paralyzing
idea that you will be humiliated in public, and see if, by
weeks’ end, you can turn that fear around.

What Contributes to Our Fear of Being Humiliated In Public:

  1. It’s happened to us. Once upon time, bursting with
    excitement and genius, we bared our psyches only to
    have an adult cut us down, or an event happen, that
    brought our peers to laughter.
  2. We’re mimicking “old school” presenters whose
    techniques perpetuate awkwardness before a crowd,
    which in turn leads us to embarrass ourselves.
  3. We’re self-focused, making us self-important. Rather
    than focusing on giving to the audience, we’re focused
    on getting approval from them. We feel a strong need
    to be perfect and if we aren’t, we experience shame.
  4. We simply aren’t prepared. We don’t know our material
    well enough and we haven’t practiced delivering it.  Once
    in front of a room, we forget, lose our way, and feel deep
    embarrassment because of it.
  5. We’re unsure about the value of our message and so
    we under-deliver (or over-deliver), and that insecurity
    leads us, like a self-fulfilling prophecy, to do something
    we so wish we hadn’t, staining us with humiliation.

Tomorrow, I’ll say more about each of these, so stay tuned! In the
meantime, start admitting to yourself that what you’re really afraid
of is being embarrassed–not speaking in public. This will now
put control back in your hands…as you prepare to share the message
you are here to give!

Why is Power Point Okay for the Military…And You?

An Actual U.S. Military Power Point Slide

By now, you have certainly heard about, or read, the prominent
front-page article in today’s New York Times, entitled, We Have
Met the Enemy and He is Powerpoint
.”
Its focus is on the
prominence of this popular presentation software in the U.S. military
and the dangers it poses. General Stanley A. McChrystal, the leader of
American and NATO forces in Afghanistan, concluded, “Power
Point makes us stupid.”

The program, commanders feel, stifles discussions, critical thinking
and thoughtful decision-making. It “relieves the briefer of the need
to polish writing to convey an analytic, persuasive point.”  General
H.R. McMaster claims, “It’s dangerous because it can create the illu-
sion of understanding
and the illusion of control.”

They bandy about affectionate terms for the program, such as “Dumb-
Dumb Bullets
,” “death by PowerPoint,” and “hypnotizing
chickens
” (25-minute PowerPoint presentations with 5-minute Q
and A). I’m sure you have slung a few choice words toward the
screen yourself.

Despite all of this, the article concludes that the Microsoft program
is staying put in the military—the one faction of our population
we’d like to hope isn’t occupied by stupid, hypnotized chickens.

 So, I have one question for today: Why is this okay?

 Why is it okay for our military, corporations, schools—for ANYONE
—to not just perpetuate stupidity, but produce it? Why is it okay
for ANY leader to stifle discussions? To bank critical thinking?? To turn
decision-making from “thoughtful” to robotic? Why is it okay to
“relieve the briefer of the need to polish their writing to convey an
analytic point”? Where does writing originate? In thinking! If
writing isn’t polished, then we know the thinking that generated it had
ragged edges and holes—and there’s nothing more dangerous than sloppy,
careless thinking.

Why is this okay?

Why is it okay for you to give a presentation that “creates the illusion
of understanding”?? Do not get me started on the ineffectiveness of
knowledge-transfer in this world; how far too many “experts” are out
there teaching without any innate skill or training in teaching. “Creating
the illusion of understanding” is epidemic in this information-age and
why are we allowing it?

Why is it okay that the brains in our audiences are flat and unaffected?

Why is it okay to insult them, by dulling their senses with slides?

Why is it okay to give a presentation that disables the group
energy
because the humming monster up front sucks it all into
itself?  How is it okay, for anyone serious about making
an impact, to completely deny group energetic connection?

Why is it okay to disrespect the audience’s time, with content that is
going unprocessed?

Why is it okay for you that your audience is bored? Where are your
own high standards?

Why is it okay for you to think you cannot persuade without a
software program?

Why is it okay for you to think you cannot remember what needs
to be said, without the crutch of slides?

Why is it okay for you to suppress your own genius? To fail to
experience your own creativity, mental ingenuity and audience
leadership
—everything that rises to the surface when you give up
your dependency on Power Point?

Why is it okay for you to tamp down your own passion in favor of
the Power Point “intellect”—which DOES not sell, and DOES not
influence??

Why is it okay for you to speak and lead others—and yet harbor
insecurity about your own ability to touch, inspire and influence
without a machine?

Why is it okay for you to disconnect emotionally from the very
people who have the true power in the room: to move your message
forward, or squelch it?

Why is it okay for you to conform? To be more invested in “getting
approval” than getting results?

Why is it okay for you to be average as a leader??

The dangers posed to our national security because of “death by
Power Point” are varied and, for some, arguable—but one thing is
certain: this tolerance for substandard methods of knowledge-
transfer is pervasive.

We have become far too seduced by what others are doing, by what
is easy–to offer what works, what truly effects change…in rooms of
lively discussions, critical thinking and thoughtful decision-making.   

And my one question about it all is, why is that okay?

My public speaking training (coming in June)  teaches how to truly
“talk to the brain”–so your creativity explodes, and with it, your 
abilty to impact and influence audiences–without PowerPoint!
 Click here if you’re ready to “escape the wannabees” with your
presentations
.

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